Friday, July 18, 2008

Mean Girls

So last night we were at Danny's softball game and Ashley started playing with a little girl (a BOSSY little girl I might add) who was probably about 6 or so. They were rolling down the hill, playing duck, duck goose (just the two of them which was pretty funny), etc. The little girl wanted her to do backwards summersaults down the hill but Ashley didn't want to so I called Ashley over to me and told her that if a friend asks her to do something and she doesn't want to do it, she doesn't have to do it. Anyway, then another little girl (also about 6) came and joined them and I think this was a pretty good friend of the other 6-year-old (Ashley is 3). They were all playing but Ashley was obviously the 3rd wheel. They were looking for bugs and then they told Ashley to go away, they didn't want her to play with them. She hung her head down and came and sat on the bleachers with her face in her hands and tears in her eyes. She asked me why the girls didn't like her. My heart broke into pieces. I wasn't ready for this yet. About 5 minutes later the bossy little girl came back over and said, "I'm not playing with my friend anymore so you can play with me now." Ashley said "No thanks." ;) That's my girl!

7 comments:

Nicole said...

That makes me want to cry for her I so wish that we could protect our kids form all the mean girls.

Shannon said...

Good Girl Ashley.
This is one area I despise about being a mama of girls. (although it happens to my boy from time to time too.)
I stress about my girls being singled out...as well as my girls turning into a mean girl.
We just need to talk them through it all and they will figure it out.

Anonymous said...

That makes me sad.

Katie said...

I hate that too. You have done a super job with Ashley~and she is a sweetheart!

Melissa said...

I agree with Shannon this is the hardest part about raising girls, because girls can just be plain MEAN. So happy she decided not to play.

Michelle said...

This is such a soap box for me!! I have gone to some training on dealing with mean girls... I have a few books to recommend if you would be interested.

Liz said...

Grrr....they better not do that around the auntie!



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